Rab Ne Bana Di Jodi – Makes Sense Now!

For the first time since its release, this movie made any sense to me. In fact, I found it really heart-warming. I don’t know why I found it nonsense when it was first released. The message portrayed escaped all logics at the time. But when I watched the movie yesterday, it made all the sense in the world to me.

The gist of the movie: Shahrukh Khan changes himself for his wife to please her and he was hoping to make her fall in love with him. It doesn’t take him a lot of time to be successful. But then it suddenly occurs to him that his wife should love him the way he is; she should appreciate and value his love for her and there should be no need for him to change.

This point escaped me several years back but now it makes sense. This is what true love means. A person doesn’t have to change his entire personality to make someone fall in love. A person can’t even do that. Changing your physical appearance and your entire personality can be a temporary thing but not permanent. Losing your own-self to make someone fall in love doesn’t make sense.

While in a relationship, there should be enough flexibility in each person to change himself to make a relationship work, it doesn’t mean the person has to change ENTIRELY and lose himself in the process.

I don’t believe in “made-for-each-other” couples. Everything requires effort and so, does a relationship. If you have problems in your relationship, it doesn’t mean what people say “it wasn’t meant to be”. It just means you need to put in more effort to make it work. And effort requires changes. You need to change the way you communicate with each other, express your feelings and perhaps work out some tactics to make it work between you two. Effort requires working out strategies that will help you to ignore the indifferences between you two.

However, these changes do not mean you should change yourself from head to toe. Every person has his own unique personality and you can never change his personality not even expect such a thing. Neither can you change nor your partner. So, you both have to accept and love each other the way you are.

So, Rab Ne Bana Di Jodi is indeed a heart touching movie. And now, I can understand why Shahrukh Khan reverted back to his original personality and original appearance.

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